Rewriting Your Story: Embracing Change with Human Design

Did you know every time your brain accesses a memory of an event, the memory changes? Over time, the memory can become distorted because you may, in fact, be recalling the last time you accessed the memory, not the original event itself.

So, we can’t necessarily rely on our memories to tell us the truth about our life experiences. What we’re really doing is telling a story about our experiences. There’s a tremendous amount of freedom in that.

The theme of storytelling has come up big with my human design clients recently. I’ve been thinking about the stories I tell myself about where I am and where I’m headed, and those we collectively tell about what is possible for us.

The Human Design system is all about storytelling. The themes and archetypes in the chart have a broad range of interpretations and ways of being expressed. There are many ways to tell the story of the human experience, and all stories are important.

But you aren’t trapped in one story forever. This is more of a “choose your own adventure” type book. In the end, you are the author and editor of your story and you can rewrite it however you see fit.

Let me give you an example of a story I’ve held onto for a long time, but chose to rewrite.

I’ve always felt a little like I didn’t fit in. Sure, I had friends, but I always had a sense I was trying to change myself to belong. I’ve felt a little different forever, and I’ve done some cringeworthy things to find belonging. Maybe you can relate. There have been hurt feelings and painful experiences along the way.

When I learned about my Human Design, I found out my Identity Center is open, meaning I have a varied experience of who I am. I can experience the identities of others as my own. I'm a chameleon, shifting my identity to match who I’m with. What comes along with this chart configuration is the desire to feel loved and accepted.

From the Human Design perspective, openness is a gift. It’s not that I don’t belong. My ability to morph based on who I’m with allows me to deepen my connections with all kinds of people. The feeling that I don’t know who I am is a story. Actually, I’m all of it. I can pull forward an aspect of myself to relate to just about anyone.

Now that’s quite a different story about the same set of experiences, is it not? Instead of a victim story where I'm not fully loved or accepted and I don't fit in, I’m telling an empowered story where I can fit in anywhere and help others feel belonging, too.

Don’t get me wrong, I will be probably “studying” belonging for my entire life. Sometimes it still feels hard. But more and more, I believe my new story about how I DO belong.

This is just one small, but not so small, example of how Human Design can help you rewrite your own stories. Your experiences are yours to interpret. And the old story may very well have been true for you, just like it was for me. But it can change whenever you are ready.

Your story is YOURS so make it a good one!

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